Tuesday, December 16, 2008

When all the Coaching In the World Doesn't Help

I originally got 'started' on this journey when I was in a deep depression. A psychologist, a psychiatrist, my GP, and support groups couldn't help. I was on my own. The feelings of desperation were overwhelming, but for the sake of my children; I was determined to find a way out.

Sometimes even now, I experience those same feelings. Although they are not to the extent they were, the mere onset of that spiralling feeling sends me into total survival mode. Being able to recognize the oncoming 'symptoms', I have been able to apply the knowledge I now have to work my way back to the happy person I choose to be. On occasion though, my familiarity with EFT, therapy, self-talk, NLP, and hypnosis seems daunting as I must choose one at a time to find out what will work and what won't. Usually, the feelings are manageable with EFT, but sometimes that is not enough. Today is one of those days. Today it took creative writing therapy, EFT, self-hypnosis and NLP to get me back on my feet. I still have some upset, but it is manageable now and dissipating.

So why am I writing about it in my blog?

Well, I want those who read this to realize that we are all human. This past week I have had some 'issues' arise in my personal life. As all serious issues, this affects my family and friends - not just me. Because I am very much aware of how my actions and thoughts affect others, I have been doing every technique I know and have been seeking counsel from some of the most wonderful people I know. Although the issues have not been resolved, I am at least able to deal with them a little better.

A few months ago, I was having a conversation with Peggy McColl about something unrelated and she said something to me that has echoed in my mind over and over again. She said, "Leigh, always remember that asking for help is a sign of strength not weakness". Well, I must be a pillar then, because I have been asking continuously. I am very lucky and thankful for the fact that I get help from every turn. I humbly suggest and remind my readers as well, ask for help when you need it. We only become weak when we lose the ability to stand and reach for the outstretched hand in front of us.

Remember too, that even the most 'aware' people in the world are still that - people. We all have things pop up now and then that seem insurmountable or too hurtful to accept. Having a toolbox and, more importantly, as circle of friends and family who care; is the key to climbing those mountains. All you have to do is reach. My hands are extended now in both directions. One is reaching for someone to help pull me up. The other is reaching to pull those who want to come with me up the next step for them.

A special thank you goes out to Michael, Jody, Fred, Jennifer, Mike, Oral, Peggy, mom, Jack, and Judy. You all have been exceptional to me and for that I am grateful.


When all the Coaching In the Worl Doesn